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I am sharing with you a selection of my published articles, taster pages for my Heartful Relationships Course and Heart of Relating book, plus three podcasts on how to thrive after the death of loved ones. The older articles, were ahead of their time when written and, on reading now, stand the test of time.

A Revolution in Relating by Carmella B’Hahn. Taken from Heart of Relating: Communication Beyond Ego, Troubador Publishing, UK, 2015.

Communication Beyond Ego and Gender by Carmella B’Hahn. Published in She Who Knows Magazine, June 2015.

Authentic Relating: A Magic Bullet? by Carmella B’Hahn. Published by Practice Business, 2016.

The Heart of Relating: Does Your Ego Get in the Way of Relationships? by Carmella B’Hahn. Published by Fabafterfifty, 2015.

Speaking with Heart by Carmella B’Hahn. Powerful short article written especially for parents. Published by London Mums Magazine, 2015.

Shifting Tragedy Consciousness by Carmella B’Hahn, published by Paradigm Shift Magazine, September 2004.

Learning from the Wisdom of Adversity by Carmella B’Hahn, written for Connect Magazine, April 2003.

Mourning as an Initiation by Carmella B’Hahn, published by LifeRites Magazine, Summer 2003.

An Exploration into the Continuity of Consciousness by Carmella B’Hahn. A long, informative article with fascinating stories supporting life before birth and after death. Published in Spirituality and Health International, Summer 2004.

Preparing for the BIG question: What happens when we die? by Carmella B’Hahn. Written specifically for therapists and counsellors. Published in Self and Society, Summer 2008.

Be the Change You Wish to See. An Interview with Arun Gandhi (mahatma Gandhi’s grandson) by Carmella B’Hahn first published in the Premiere issue of Safe Learning (USA), Jan/Feb 2001. Also published in Reclaiming Children and Youth (USA), Spring 2001.

Adversity as a Route to Leadership by Carmella B’Hahn. A book chapter written for Smart School Leaders: Leading with Emotional Intelligence – Janet Patti and James Tobin, Kendall/Hunt Publishing Co., Iowa, (USA) 2005.

Taster Pages

Heartful Relationships Course taster pages ~ Take a peek inside at the course contents, the New Paradigms of Relating model and the first week’s teachings. (12 pages)

Heart of Relating Book taster pages ~ A taste of the book’s contents including: the Introduction; a useful model of the Inside-out and Outside-in Paradigms of Relating and the first week’s lesson. (20 pages)

Podcasts with Carmella

How to Deal with the Death of a Loved One

Carmella is in conversation with Elisabeth Serra, whose mother had recently died. There are some fascinating and thought-provoking stories here that help bring more consciousness and a completely different perspective to the pain and grief in our life. Where we might we be going after death is also covered.

The following two podcasts were recorded for “Our Birth Journey”. They address loss and grief as it arises in the journey from conception to early parenting. Much of the content is transferable to other losses.

BEST WITH HEADPHONES. Apologies for the lower volume of Laoise’s voice (the interviewer).

Thriving Through the Fire of Grief (1.)


• Common causes of grief in the birth journey and what to expect when grieving.

• Carmella’s personal grief experience and what was most useful in her healing process.

• What it means to “thrive” through the fire of grief.

• (@29min) An example of Carmella’s group work for the bereaved ~ themes which can also be covered in individual sessions (dates of the workshops have passed).

Thriving Through the Fire of Grief: A Deeper Exploration (2)


• What motivates Carmella to work with grief and what she finds challenging.

• Tips for grieving abortions, miscarriages, stillbirths and baby deaths.

• Self-talk, beliefs, guilt and self-punishment.

• Grieving whilst open rather than contracted; allowing or feeding the grief.

• Will my unborn child (and other children) be affected by my grief?

• Self-care.

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