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I can help if you:

• Want someone at your back who knows the terrain of grief well.
• Feel shattered by grief and want to piece yourself together again.
• Are open to using your wounds as fuel for transformation.
• Crave release of stuck places and feel the need to move on.
• Are struggling to live with abortion, miscarriage, stillbirth or child loss.
• Want to explore the possibility of the continuance of life after death.

Carmella’s grief experience

Death and grief have been frequent visitors in my own life. Having endured the death by drowning of my first son, Benjaya, followed by two miscarriages and the deaths of several other loved ones, I have come to believe that the process of grief is akin to alchemy ~ defined as ‘The art of transmutation from base metal to gold’. I particularly resonate with the quote, ‘In order to test gold, you have to see it through the fire’. I have survived and emerged from several fires with an unshakable trust in grief as a transformative tool and with a desire to stand with others as they discover their way to navigate grief. I personally embrace the bigger picture, what some call the spiritual dimension, in my life and work but share this only when appropriate. Writing two books focussed on healing from loss and grief and interviewing extraordinary people about how they healed through trauma has also taught me a great deal.

About Grief Support Sessions

Grief has countless sources and I support anyone bereaved or bereft in any way. Parents who have ‘lost’ babies or children are often drawn to me and I find these connections particularly poignant. In each session, my way is to open to what is live in you in the moment that needs witnessing, supporting or transforming. I am in service of your needs and I’d love to assist you, when you are ready, to piece (or peace) yourself together again in a stronger formation and to help you remember your identity beyond what has happened to you.

I will draw on experience and resources gathered over 30 years of working with personal transformation, grief and relationship-building and if something comes to me to say, I like to be free to say it. I believe that once you choose to work with me, we are in the healing process together and that I can be a conduit of insight to add to your own.

You are welcome to book one session and see if I am a good match for you. If so, you can book further times individually or have an ongoing regular slot until you feel a completion of the need for my support. You can book for 1 hour or 1.5 hours (costs below).

In person or online

Sessions are available both in person at my home in Totnes, Devon UK and online on Zoom or Skype at the same cost. If you live locally, I recommend that we meet face to face, especially if you are in intense grief. If online, you will be asked to connect from a quiet room with no distractions, with tissues and perhaps a notepad/journal on hand.

NB: Many grief clients within reach of Totnes choose to also experience TRE (Tension and Trauma release Exercises) with me because this body-centred tool is invaluable to release traumatic bodily imprints that are too deep for words to reach.

Costs and Booking

Sessions are either 1 hour or 1.5 hours. Payment is by sliding scale according to your means. You are asked to tune in to what you can honestly afford. The more generous you are able to be, the more this supports those who have less resources.

It is recommended, but not essential, that you book 1.5 hours for the first session in order to feel more spacious in the initial sharing of your story. This can be followed by subsequent hourly appointments, or longer ones if you choose.

Sliding scale cost range for sessions:
£45 ~ £75 (1 hour)
£55 ~ £85 (1.5 hours)
Payment is by bank transfer (before meeting or the same day when it’s still in your mind) or by cash at the end of each session.

NB. If paying by transfer, please create a strategy to remember.

How to book
My preferred way to take bookings is by email:  but I am happy to arrange to have a short Zoom or phone conversation before booking if you think it might help you to connect with me before committing to a first session. I don’t work Thursday mornings, weekends or evenings unless essential.

Cancellations/No shows
Please value my time and let me know as far in advance as possible if you really need to change your appointment. If you don’t turn up, or cancel at the last minute, you will be asked to pay the full agreed amount, so please put the date in your diary/calendar ASAP.

When the towers of my world came crashing down with the loss of my child and relationship, I found Carmella. She helped me to consciously rebuild my life and guided me to become the man I am now. I am now blessed with a wonderful wife and three amazing children!

M. B. (Devon, UK)

I was initially apprehensive as to how long-distance counselling would work. I wondered if the distance might make it difficult to share important feelings and understandings. Not at all ~ it has worked wonderfully. I can recommend it with no hesitation.

P. H. (Solihull, UK)

I live on the other side of the Atlantic to Carmella but when my mother died it was a Godsend to know that she was there with her care and wise words. She kept me sane through a horribly traumatic time.

J. P. (New York, USA)

Books to help with Grieving

Podcasts about Grieving

How to Deal with the Death of a Loved One

Carmella is in conversation with Elisabeth Serra, whose mother had recently died. There are some fascinating and thought-provoking stories here that help bring more consciousness and a completely different perspective to the pain and grief in our life. Where we might we be going after death is also covered.

Carmella’s two other podcasts addressing loss and grief as it arises in the journey from conception to early parenting are available to watch via the Articles/Podcasts page.

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